By Celina Peerman
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October 29, 2026
In our house, we have a code word that has survived nearly 35 years of marriage. Chicken pill. Yes, chicken pill. It started in the early days of our marriage, when my husband and I were juggling professional responsibilities, family life, and all the decisions that come with being adults. Some evenings, one of us would ask the seemingly innocent question: "What do you want for dinner?" And sometimes, that was one decision too many. We didn't want to consider options, check ingredients, or debate what sounded good. We just wanted someone to hand us a pill with all the necessary nourishment and call it good. The code word stuck. Today, it means, "I've made all the decisions I have in me." I suspect many of us understand that feeling. We're navigating rising costs, changing technology, shifting workplace expectations, and preparing for the holidays. Add family responsibilities, caregiving, community commitments, and everyday life, and it's easy to see how the mental load accumulates. And through it all, life keeps asking us to make decisions whether we have the energy for one more or not. The Decisions We Don't Count As an organizational psychologist, I've spent more than 30 years working with leaders navigating difficult choices. But decision fatigue isn't reserved for senior leaders. It affects parents, teachers, healthcare workers, small business owners, frontline employees, volunteers, and anyone managing competing responsibilities. When we think about leadership decisions, we often focus on the big ones. Strategic choices. Personnel issues. Financial commitments. Difficult conversations. Decisions that have consequences for other people. But those aren't the only decisions consuming our attention. There are hundreds of smaller ones. Do I respond to this email now or later? Is this something I should handle or delegate? Does this situation need my involvement? Should I address this issue today or give it another day? Do we have enough information to move forward? What do I say to someone who is frustrated, discouraged, or uncertain? Some decisions are significant. Others seem insignificant until they accumulate. And sometimes the most exhausting decisions aren't new ones. They're the same unresolved issues requiring our attention again and again. The same staffing issue. The same unclear expectations. The same process that doesn't work. The same conversation that hasn't happened. Each one requires attention, judgment, and a little more mental energy. And then we go home. Where someone asks what we want for dinner. Chicken pill. The Gap Between Responsibility and Capacity In organizational psychology, we often talk about cognitive load, the demands placed on our attention and working memory, and how those demands influence performance. Decision fatigue is a useful way to describe what can happen when repeated choices and ongoing mental demands begin to wear on our willingness or ability to engage thoughtfully with the next decision. The research is more nuanced than the popular idea that we have a fixed daily supply of decisions that eventually runs out. Fatigue, stress, complexity, motivation, and the conditions surrounding a decision all matter. But the everyday experience is recognizable. We become impatient with questions that normally wouldn't bother us. We postpone necessary conversations. We default to familiar choices because considering alternatives feels like too much work. We make a quick decision simply to move something off our plate. Or we ask for one more report, one more meeting, one more conversation, not necessarily because we need more information, but because we aren't ready to decide. And here's the challenge. The responsibility to lead doesn't automatically decrease when our capacity to make thoughtful decisions does. People still need answers. Work still needs to move forward. Problems still need attention. And sometimes, the people looking to us for direction are experiencing their own decision fatigue. That is a very real leadership gap. When Fatigue Starts Influencing Our Leadership One of the things I've learned through years of working with leaders is that we don't always recognize the difference between a difficult decision and a decision we're too tired to make well. Consider a supervisor who has spent the morning handling staffing changes, production problems, and customer concerns. By afternoon, an employee approaches with an idea for improving a process. Normally, the supervisor would be curious. Today, the answer is, "Let's just keep doing what we're doing." Or consider an executive navigating budget discussions and organizational changes. A team member asks for clarification on priorities. Instead of offering direction, the executive says, "Use your best judgment." That might sound empowering. But if expectations aren't clear, it may simply transfer the burden of deciding to someone else. A manager knows a difficult conversation needs to happen. But after a day filled with competing demands, the thought of one more emotionally complicated interaction feels overwhelming. So the conversation waits. Again. None of these examples necessarily reflects a lack of commitment or capability. Sometimes they reflect what happens when demands accumulate faster than we recover from them. And when we don't recognize that pattern, fatigue can begin influencing our leadership in ways we never intended. When Decision Fatigue Becomes a Team Problem Here's something we don't discuss enough. Decision fatigue isn't just an individual problem. Sometimes it's a problem with how we've organized our work and responsibilities. Think about a leader who has become the default decision-maker for nearly everything. Every question, exception, and small adjustment finds its way to that person's desk. The leader is exhausted because everyone needs something. But the team may be equally exhausted because they can't move forward without asking permission. Or consider an executive team that keeps revisiting a decision, requesting more information, considering another alternative, and scheduling one more discussion. Meanwhile, employees are spending their energy trying to interpret what direction they're supposed to follow. The absence of a decision doesn't mean the absence of mental effort. In fact, uncertainty can create additional work as people try to anticipate what might happen, develop backup plans, or make sense of incomplete information. And these patterns don't exist only in workplaces. They happen at home, on volunteer boards, in community organizations, and anywhere responsibilities are shared. Sometimes one person becomes the keeper of all the details. The person who remembers, anticipates, organizes, follows up, and makes sure things happen. That person may be very capable. But being capable of carrying something doesn't mean you should always be the one carrying it. The mental load isn't always distributed equally. And this is where decision fatigue becomes more than an individual issue. It becomes a question of how we organize work, distribute authority, communicate expectations, and support one another. Sometimes the best way to reduce decision fatigue isn't to help people make decisions faster. It's to stop making them carry decisions they shouldn't have to make in the first place. When You Hit Chicken Pill: Five Ways to Respond We can't always control the number of decisions life requires. And there are certainly elements of our work and responsibilities we can't change immediately. But even when there are elements we can't change now, what can we do? I don't believe the answer is to somehow become better at making an unlimited number of decisions. Nor do I think we can solve this simply by telling people to practice more self-care. Certainly, rest and recovery matter. But so do the systems, expectations, and habits that determine how many decisions land on someone's desk in the first place. Here are five places to start. 1. Pause before you push through. Ask yourself: Is this decision genuinely urgent, or does it just feel urgent? Sometimes ten minutes, a short walk, or waiting until tomorrow creates enough space to think more clearly. Not everything deserves an immediate answer. And there's a difference between avoiding a decision and intentionally creating the conditions to make it well. 2. Separate the important from the routine. Not every decision deserves the same amount of your attention. Which choices genuinely require your judgment? Which could be simplified, standardized, or handled by someone else? Sometimes we've unintentionally trained our teams to bring every decision to us. And sometimes our organizations have built processes that require too many approvals for things that should be relatively straightforward. Protect your attention for the decisions that have meaningful consequences. 3. Share the thinking, not just the burden. There's a difference between involving others in a decision and simply handing them an unclear problem because you're exhausted. Inviting others into the thinking can improve the quality of a decision, broaden perspectives, and develop capability. But effective delegation requires context, boundaries, and the authority to act. "Use your best judgment" is only empowering when people understand what good judgment looks like in that situation. Otherwise, we may simply be transferring our decision fatigue to someone else. 4. Notice the decisions that keep coming back. If you're making the same decision every week, it's worth asking why. Is there an unclear expectation? A process that isn't working? A responsibility that hasn't been assigned? A conversation that keeps getting postponed? Repeated decisions often signal something in the system that needs attention. Sometimes the most valuable decision we can make is to resolve the underlying issue so we don't have to keep making the same choice. 5. Make recovery part of how work gets done. We often talk about recovery as something that happens after work. But organizations also influence how much mental energy people expend during the workday. Consider how decisions are distributed throughout the day and across the team. Are people moving from one high-stakes conversation to another without time to think? Are meetings creating clarity or generating more decisions? Do employees have enough authority to move work forward? Are interruptions and unnecessary approvals consuming attention that could be better spent elsewhere? Rest matters. So does designing work that doesn't unnecessarily exhaust people. And perhaps most importantly, we need to recognize that decision fatigue doesn't only happen to the person at the top. It can happen to anyone navigating competing expectations, unclear priorities, and responsibilities that affect others. Making Room for Better Decisions As leaders, we often measure our effectiveness by how much we can handle. How many problems we solve. How quickly we respond. How many people depend on us. But perhaps one measure of leadership maturity is learning to recognize when our decision-making capacity needs attention. Not as an excuse to avoid responsibility. But as part of taking responsibility seriously. Because when our choices affect other people, the conditions under which we make those choices matter. And we have a responsibility to notice those conditions in our teams as well. Is someone becoming unusually impatient? Are decisions taking longer than they should? Are people asking for permission on things they used to handle independently? Are we seeing more hesitation, more rework, or more conversations that circle back to the same unresolved questions? These aren't always signs of decision fatigue. But they may be signals worth exploring. Instead of assuming someone needs to be more decisive, perhaps we should ask what they're carrying. Instead of assuming a team needs more accountability, perhaps we should look at how much clarity and authority we've actually given them. And instead of expecting ourselves to have an endless supply of answers, perhaps we can become more intentional about which decisions deserve our best thinking. Back to Chicken Pill After nearly 35 years, my husband and I still use our silly little code word. And the beauty of it is that neither of us has to explain. We understand. One of us has reached the point where choosing dinner feels like an unreasonable request. It's a small moment of honesty. A little humor. And permission to stop deciding for a while. Its greatest value isn't that someone else figures out dinner. It's that we recognize when one of us has reached our limit without needing to explain or defend it. Imagine what might change if our teams had a little more of that awareness, too. Not an excuse to stop making important decisions. But an opportunity to recognize when people need clarity, support, a little breathing room, or simply fewer unnecessary choices. Because leadership isn't about making every decision. It's about creating the conditions for better decisions to happen. And sometimes, leading in the gap begins with recognizing that you've made one decision too many. Because sometimes the gap isn't between what we need to do and what we know how to do. It's between what life is asking of us and what we can offer next. A question for you: What is one decision you or your team keep making that could be simplified, shared, or eliminated? And whose mental load might become a little lighter if you did? Learn More: Visit drcelinapeerman.com to learn more about Dr. Celina and to book her for your next event Listen to over 24 hours of leadership content on the Workplace Chameleon Podcast at https://workplacechameleon.buzzsprout.com/ Check out our online, on demand leadership training where you can meet your staff where they are, when they're ready at leadershiplearningondemand.com Photo by Vitaly Gariev